50 Worst Parenting Mistakes to Avoid for Good Parenting

Parenting is actually an art that one masters over years learning from mistakes. Every parent does commit many mistakes while raising up kids, as every parent becomes a parent without any experience. Sadly, parenting is not a subject taught in schools and one has to learn by self. So, we are here to talk about not one, five, ten but Fifty Parenting Mistakes to Avoid for a Good Parenting.

First of all, remember, as parents we can’t be perfect all the time. Moreover; our behaviour with our kids also depends on how they behave most of the times. 

So, mistakes while parenting are bound to take place. But, after learning about what to avoid as a parent in 50 ways, we bet you will prove yourself to be a good parent for your child.

Without wasting anymore time, we are going to discuss the 50 Big Mistakes that Parents Do:

1.Slap or beat them: The first common parenting mistake that we do is slap or beat our child. Punishing becomes essential at times but slapping every now and then simply demoralizes them and generates a negative vibe in them against you.

2.Offer too many options or choices: Second big parenting mistake committed by a majority of parents is offering too many options to the child. This makes them take you for granted that no matter, what you will give them an alternative if the one offered is not as per their liking.

3.Praise them even for wrong reasons: Likewise, third mistake out of our shortlisted 50 Big Parenting Mistakes, we have the mistake to praise the child even for wrong reasons. Parents who instead of scolding the child for beating someone or stealing something praise them, are not good parents!

4.Constantly compare them: Comparing your child with any other child in the family or school creates a feeling of jealousy and hatred in the child. So, you must avoid this parenting mistake at all cost.

5.Ignore their needs: On the other hand, if the child is indulging in wrong habits or making wrong friend, then it is probably because you are ignoring his or her needs.

6.Don’t give them quality time: Likewise, when you deprive the child from your quality time, he or she will feel lonely and look for other ways to get involved. These ways in most of the cases are wrong, so start giving quality time to your child as part of good parenting.

7.Don’t allow them to explore: Another common parenting mistake that most parents do is not giving space and time to the child to explore. We set our own instructions and advices for the child to follow rather than letting them free to explore on their own.

8.Don’t let them free: As we just mentioned, many parents don’t let their children free for even a second. They are always up with some or the other instruction and then the child starts feeling discouraged and under burden.

9.Expect too much: With the word burden, comes our next point in the list of 50 Parenting Mistakes that parents do, which is expecting too much from the child. In an urge to stay in the competition, we ask too much from the child and burden them with our own set expectations.

    10.Want perfect behaviour all the time: Remember, children are children and even we were a child once! No, child can behave in decorum and discipline all the time, they can be naughty and mischievous at times, so don’t expect a perfect behaviour from them all the time.

11.Preach without practising: When discussing the Most Common 50 Parenting Mistakes, we would throw light on setting examples for the children as one big mistake. As parents we tend to form a habit of preaching without practising. Children look up at us as role models, so before preaching them show them that you too practice a certain thing.

12.Don’t listen to them: Again, in an urge to fulfil our other commitments, we tend to not just give enough time to our children and don’t even listen to them. Believe it, this is one of the biggest parenting mistakes that must be avoided at all times. Be a good listener to your child, if not his or her best friend.

     13.Threaten them for bad behaviour: Most of the parents on the other hand are seen threatening their children for behaving bad. They are seen scolding them and threatening to punish them in some or the other way. This when done often actually removes the fear of punishment from the child’s mind.

14.Argue with them: If you seriously wish to raise well-behaved children, simply avoid arguing with them. Remember, children learn what they see and when you will argue with them, they will learn the same. Instead, try conveying your point to them politely giving the right examples.

15.Don’t set examples: As parents, try to be the role model for your child by setting examples for them to follow. If you spend most of your time sleeping or playing games on your phone, your child will learn the same from you.

16. Give Importance to Mobile: One of the Biggest Parenting Mistakes done by parents these days is that they give more importance to technology, especially mobile. The child wants your attention but at that time you are busy with your mobile, this deprives the child from your attention.

17.Throw our ambitions on them: If you wanted to be a singer but somehow could not, don’t throw your ambition on your child. Analyse your child’s interest and encourage in what he or she likes instead of throwing your ambitions on them.

18. Giving them a wrong label: Labelling your child with a tag is a one of the Top 50 Parenting Mistakes that a parent can do. This again discourages the child and even if he or she tries to improve, the tag reminds him or her not to improve.

19.Over-discipline or Indiscipline: Up next, we feel that discipline has always been a main thing in the parenting dictionary of a majority of parents. Often, the parents are either seen indulging in over-discipline or lack of discipline. Don’t snatch his or her childhood under the name of discipline.

20.Don’t emphasize with the child: Another parenting error to avoid is not to emphasize with the child. If the child gets hurt playing, don’t emphasize, else the child will cry more. Try to divert his or her attention, so that the child doesn’t over-exaggerates and learns to move on.

21.Punish for every small mistake: Next in our pick of 50 Worst Parenting Errors we feel parents who punish their child for every small mistake are wrong. It’s okay to punish the child when he or she is wrong but sometimes, they should be spared with a moral lesson. 

22.Quarrel with spouse in front of the child: Those wishing to raise perfect children must not fight with spouse in front of the child. This throws a very negative impact on the child’s mind. A child right from the very beginning of life dreams and imagines a happy family and draws the same in his or her first drawing. Fighting in front of the child, simply destroys this image and the child may get mentally disturbed.

   23.Expecting more than their age: As parents, we all usually expect good grades, discipline, good manners and many more things from our child. But, expecting more than their age will be a silly mistake as a parent. You can’t expect an infant to eat without spilling food, can you?

    24.Spoon-feeding the child: This surely is one of the worst parenting errors that any parent can do! Spoon-feeding the child! It is okay at a very early age but not always! Teach your child to help himself or herself, don’t always help the child. Let the child be independent and not dependent on you for everything.

    25.Only studies no fun: As a parent, do you miss playing out with friends like you did in childhood? So, you understand the importance of playing and having fun with children? Then, don’t deprive your child from the same by just pushing him or her for studies. Try to inculcate a balance of studies and play for the child. 

26.Don’t allow them to learn from mistakes: A good parenting tip for you is that mistakes often tend to become the stepping stones for children. Let them do mistakes and learn from them in the course of growth. Don’t be too strict when they do any mistake.

27.Over-negotiate with them: Parents who bribe or negotiate with their kids are not always right as per parenting experts. It is good at a certain limit but over negotiating with the children builds a habit in them. They will learn not to do a certain thing unless they get something in return.

    28.We scream and yell on them: Believe it or not, we bet all parents have done this big mistake of screaming and yelling on their children. Perhaps, this is the reason that screaming on children is counted as one of the 50 Biggest Parenting Mistakes. This surely frightens the child and doesn’t let him or her grow in a sensible manner.

29. Let them fall: We all have fallen at one or more times in life, but when we think let the child fall and learn how to stand up, we often commit a mistake. As a parent you must protect your child, there will be many instances, when the child may fall and you will not be around to support him or her, so don’t let the child fall in your presence.

   30.Don’t understand reason for their behaviour: On the other hand, many parents simply don’t first check the basic reason for a child’s behaviour and start scolding or punishing him or her. This is the worst mistake any parent can do! You are an adult, but your child is not, so first figure out the main reason for the child’s behaviour and then guide him or her accordingly instead of scolding or punishing.

   31.Surrender to their demands: As children, kids like to demand whatever they want from their parents. But, at the same time, as parents, you need to teach them what to demand and what not to! You must not surrender to their demands all the times.

   32.Not answering their queries on time: Another point in our list of 50 Big Parenting Faults, we have the one that every parent does at some or the other point of time. That is, not answering the child’s queries and questions. A questioning child by science is considered to be an intelligent one, so don’t ignore questions and queries raised by them. Answer them as appropriately as you can to broaden the mind of the child about that curiosity.

    33.Rely too much on baby or child equipment: Science and technology has surely developed but relying too much on these advanced baby or child equipment can be the worst parenting mistake. No device or equipment can replace the love and affection given by the parent.

   34.We bully and criticize our child: Another Big Parenting Fault to stop is bullying or criticizing your child every now and then. Your child is tender and wants love and emotion from parents and when you criticize him or her instead of rectifying with patience, it actually demoralizes the child.

  35.Inconsistent parenting approach: When discussing different parenting errors and flaws, we have to say that most parents fail due to inconsistent parenting approach. They either become too strict or too lenient towards the child, that everything ultimately goes wrong.

   36.Don’t insist on limits or boundaries: As a parenting rule, we know it is important to set limits and boundaries for your child. But, don’t always limit them and control them. Try to explore them beyond the set limits, so that they don’t feel a slave to you.

   37.Don’t teach them the consequences of actions: While we set our children free, we must teach them to face the consequences of their chosen actions. The aim should be to raise a good child and thereby to raise a good and responsible citizen.

   38.Follow the way our parents raised us: As we said, children look up to their parents as role models, we do as parents do the same and try to follow the way our parents raised us. This is a common parenting mistake; we forget that parenting techniques have changed over years and the same formulas might not work anymore.

     39.Don’t guide them on time: Next in our list of Top 50 Parenting Mistakes, we feel that not guiding them on time is a big mistake. Children are children and need guidance on and off and no one else can guide them better than you as a parent, so guide them as and when necessary.

     40.Forget they are children: While raising your child, don’t ever forget that you are a parent and the child is a child! Tender, inexperienced, naughty, unstable and looking for attention. Don’t expect that the child will behave like elders every time, give him or her the scope to be a child like other children.

     41.Don’t give the right to choose: Another common mistakes that parents do while raising their children is that they don’t allow them to make choices. We agree parents know better than the children but, the child too must get the freedom to make choice once in a while.

42.Insult them in front of others: For god sake, never ever commit the mistake of insulting your child in front of others. This embarks a feeling of shyness, discouragement and frustration in the child.

     43.Pay too much attention to their tantrums: On the other hand, if you pay too much attention to their tantrums, then too you are going on the wrong track of parenting. This will simply spoil the child and you will be blamed for raising a spoilt brat.

    44.Don’t appreciate good behaviour: When raising your child, we recommend you to appreciate them too for good behaviour. The problem with most of the parents is that they do scold the child for every wrong reason but hardly appreciate for those small good behaviours. Children too need that dose of appreciation especially from parents.

    45.Don’t keep an eye on them: We earlier said, that we don’t set our children free! But, now we will say that not keeping an eye on them is another big parenting mistake. You as a parent must be aware of what your child is doing even if you let him or her free.

46.Turn the child against the other parent: At the same time, we have noticed that when a parent tries to turn the child against the other parent, the child somehow gets disturbed mentally. Whether or not you have cordial relation with your spouse, the child should not be involved in it.

47.Raise them with ego and not with unconditional love: Raising a child with ego is one of the biggest mistakes a parent can do! Try teaching your child humbleness with unconditional love, so that he or she also gives the same to others around instead of an ego show.

48.Don’t involve them in small household works: If you thought that your child is small and is only meant to play or study, then you are wrong! Children can be great at household works and can even help you tremendously in day to day life.

49. Try to make them happy or satisfy all time: Up next, we feel that trying to please the child all the time is a common mistake that most of us do. The child should be taught to adjust even if the situation or thing is not as per his or her liking, so don’t always try to make the child happy.

   50.Lose out patience: Last in our list of 50 Common Parenting Mistakes that parents make, we have the loss of patience. We all at times just loss our patience dealing with our kids and yell, hit or simply ignore them. Patience is the key to good parenting, so stay patient as much as you can to raise good and disciplined children.

   We now assume, reading these 50 Biggest Parenting Mistakes, you will rectify them and be a good parent to your child.