Parenting is actually an art
that one masters over years learning from mistakes. Every parent does commit
many mistakes while raising up kids, as every parent becomes a parent without
any experience. Sadly, parenting is not a subject taught in schools and one has
to learn by self. So, we are here to talk about not one, five, ten but Fifty
Parenting Mistakes to Avoid for a Good Parenting.
So, mistakes while parenting are bound to take place. But, after learning about what to avoid as a parent in 50 ways, we bet you will prove yourself to be a good parent for your child.
Without wasting anymore
time, we are going to discuss the 50 Big Mistakes that Parents Do:
1.Slap or beat them: The first common parenting mistake that we do is slap or beat our child. Punishing becomes essential at times but slapping every now and then simply demoralizes them and generates a negative vibe in them against you.
2.Offer too many options or choices: Second big parenting mistake committed by a majority of parents is offering too many options to the child. This makes them take you for granted that no matter, what you will give them an alternative if the one offered is not as per their liking.
3.Praise them even for wrong reasons: Likewise, third mistake out of our shortlisted 50 Big Parenting Mistakes, we have the mistake to praise the child even for wrong reasons. Parents who instead of scolding the child for beating someone or stealing something praise them, are not good parents!
4.Constantly compare
them: Comparing
your child with any other child in the family or school creates a feeling of
jealousy and hatred in the child. So, you must avoid this parenting mistake at
all cost.
5.Ignore their needs: On the other hand, if the child is indulging in wrong habits or making wrong friend, then it is probably because you are ignoring his or her needs.
6.Don’t give them quality time: Likewise, when you deprive the child from your quality time, he or she will feel lonely and look for other ways to get involved. These ways in most of the cases are wrong, so start giving quality time to your child as part of good parenting.
7.Don’t allow them to
explore: Another
common parenting mistake that most parents do is not giving space and time to
the child to explore. We set our own instructions and advices for the child to
follow rather than letting them free to explore on their own.
8.Don’t let them free: As we just mentioned,
many parents don’t let their children free for even a second. They are always
up with some or the other instruction and then the child starts feeling
discouraged and under burden.
9.Expect too much: With the word burden,
comes our next point in the list of 50 Parenting Mistakes that parents do,
which is expecting too much from the child. In an urge to stay in the
competition, we ask too much from the child and burden them with our own set
expectations.
10.Want perfect behaviour all the time: Remember, children are children and even we were a child once! No, child can behave in decorum and discipline all the time, they can be naughty and mischievous at times, so don’t expect a perfect behaviour from them all the time.
11.Preach without
practising: When
discussing the Most Common 50 Parenting Mistakes, we would throw light on
setting examples for the children as one big mistake. As parents we tend to
form a habit of preaching without practising. Children look up at us as role
models, so before preaching them show them that you too practice a certain
thing.
12.Don’t listen to them:
Again,
in an urge to fulfil our other commitments, we tend to not just give enough
time to our children and don’t even listen to them. Believe it, this is one of
the biggest parenting mistakes that must be avoided at all times. Be a good
listener to your child, if not his or her best friend.
13.Threaten them for bad
behaviour: Most
of the parents on the other hand are seen threatening their children for
behaving bad. They are seen scolding them and threatening to punish them in
some or the other way. This when done often actually removes the fear of
punishment from the child’s mind.
14.Argue with them: If you seriously wish to raise well-behaved children, simply avoid arguing with them. Remember, children learn what they see and when you will argue with them, they will learn the same. Instead, try conveying your point to them politely giving the right examples.
15.Don’t set examples: As parents, try to be the role model for your child by setting examples for them to follow. If you spend most of your time sleeping or playing games on your phone, your child will learn the same from you.
16. Give Importance to
Mobile: One
of the Biggest Parenting Mistakes done by parents these days is that they give
more importance to technology, especially mobile. The child wants your
attention but at that time you are busy with your mobile, this deprives the
child from your attention.
17.Throw our ambitions on them: If you wanted to be a singer but somehow could not, don’t throw your ambition on your child. Analyse your child’s interest and encourage in what he or she likes instead of throwing your ambitions on them.
18. Giving them a wrong
label: Labelling
your child with a tag is a one of the Top 50 Parenting Mistakes that a parent
can do. This again discourages the child and even if he or she tries to
improve, the tag reminds him or her not to improve.
19.Over-discipline or
Indiscipline:
Up next, we feel that discipline has always been a main thing in the parenting
dictionary of a majority of parents. Often, the parents are either seen
indulging in over-discipline or lack of discipline. Don’t snatch his or her
childhood under the name of discipline.
20.Don’t emphasize with
the child: Another
parenting error to avoid is not to emphasize with the child. If the child gets
hurt playing, don’t emphasize, else the child will cry more. Try to divert his
or her attention, so that the child doesn’t over-exaggerates and learns to move
on.
21.Punish for every
small mistake: Next
in our pick of 50 Worst Parenting Errors we feel parents who punish their child
for every small mistake are wrong. It’s okay to punish the child when he or she
is wrong but sometimes, they should be spared with a moral lesson.
22.Quarrel with spouse
in front of the child: Those wishing to raise perfect children must not fight
with spouse in front of the child. This throws a very negative impact on the
child’s mind. A child right from the very beginning of life dreams and imagines
a happy family and draws the same in his or her first drawing. Fighting in
front of the child, simply destroys this image and the child may get mentally
disturbed.
23.Expecting more than
their age: As
parents, we all usually expect good grades, discipline, good manners and many
more things from our child. But, expecting more than their age will be a silly
mistake as a parent. You can’t expect an infant to eat without spilling food,
can you?
24.Spoon-feeding the
child: This
surely is one of the worst parenting errors that any parent can do!
Spoon-feeding the child! It is okay at a very early age but not always! Teach
your child to help himself or herself, don’t always help the child. Let the
child be independent and not dependent on you for everything.
25.Only studies no fun: As a parent, do you
miss playing out with friends like you did in childhood? So, you understand the
importance of playing and having fun with children? Then, don’t deprive your
child from the same by just pushing him or her for studies. Try to inculcate a
balance of studies and play for the child.
27.Over-negotiate with them: Parents who bribe or negotiate with their kids are not always right as per parenting experts. It is good at a certain limit but over negotiating with the children builds a habit in them. They will learn not to do a certain thing unless they get something in return.
28.We scream and yell on
them: Believe
it or not, we bet all parents have done this big mistake of screaming and
yelling on their children. Perhaps, this is the reason that screaming on
children is counted as one of the 50 Biggest Parenting Mistakes. This surely
frightens the child and doesn’t let him or her grow in a sensible manner.
30.Don’t understand
reason for their behaviour: On the other hand, many parents simply don’t first
check the basic reason for a child’s behaviour and start scolding or punishing
him or her. This is the worst mistake any parent can do! You are an adult, but
your child is not, so first figure out the main reason for the child’s
behaviour and then guide him or her accordingly instead of scolding or
punishing.
31.Surrender to their
demands: As
children, kids like to demand whatever they want from their parents. But, at
the same time, as parents, you need to teach them what to demand and what not
to! You must not surrender to their demands all the times.
32.Not answering their
queries on time: Another
point in our list of 50 Big Parenting Faults, we have the one that every parent
does at some or the other point of time. That is, not answering the child’s
queries and questions. A questioning child by science is considered to be an
intelligent one, so don’t ignore questions and queries raised by them. Answer
them as appropriately as you can to broaden the mind of the child about that
curiosity.
33.Rely too much on baby
or child equipment: Science
and technology has surely developed but relying too much on these advanced baby
or child equipment can be the worst parenting mistake. No device or equipment
can replace the love and affection given by the parent.
34.We bully and
criticize our child: Another
Big Parenting Fault to stop is bullying or criticizing your child every now and
then. Your child is tender and wants love and emotion from parents and when you
criticize him or her instead of rectifying with patience, it actually
demoralizes the child.
35.Inconsistent
parenting approach: When
discussing different parenting errors and flaws, we have to say that most
parents fail due to inconsistent parenting approach. They either become too
strict or too lenient towards the child, that everything ultimately goes wrong.
36.Don’t insist on
limits or boundaries: As a parenting rule, we know it is important to set
limits and boundaries for your child. But, don’t always limit them and control
them. Try to explore them beyond the set limits, so that they don’t feel a
slave to you.
37.Don’t teach them the
consequences of actions: While we set our children free, we must teach them to
face the consequences of their chosen actions. The aim should be to raise a
good child and thereby to raise a good and responsible citizen.
38.Follow the way our
parents raised us: As
we said, children look up to their parents as role models, we do as parents do
the same and try to follow the way our parents raised us. This is a common
parenting mistake; we forget that parenting techniques have changed over years
and the same formulas might not work anymore.
39.Don’t guide them on time: Next in our list of Top 50 Parenting Mistakes, we feel that not guiding them on time is a big mistake. Children are children and need guidance on and off and no one else can guide them better than you as a parent, so guide them as and when necessary.
40.Forget they are children: While raising your child, don’t ever forget that you are a parent and the child is a child! Tender, inexperienced, naughty, unstable and looking for attention. Don’t expect that the child will behave like elders every time, give him or her the scope to be a child like other children.
42.Insult them in front of others: For god sake, never ever commit the mistake of insulting your child in front of others. This embarks a feeling of shyness, discouragement and frustration in the child.
43.Pay too much
attention to their tantrums: On the other hand, if you pay too much
attention to their tantrums, then too you are going on the wrong track of
parenting. This will simply spoil the child and you will be blamed for raising
a spoilt brat.
44.Don’t appreciate good behaviour: When raising your child, we recommend you to appreciate them too for good behaviour. The problem with most of the parents is that they do scold the child for every wrong reason but hardly appreciate for those small good behaviours. Children too need that dose of appreciation especially from parents.
45.Don’t keep an eye on
them: We
earlier said, that we don’t set our children free! But, now we will say that
not keeping an eye on them is another big parenting mistake. You as a parent
must be aware of what your child is doing even if you let him or her free.
46.Turn the child
against the other parent: At the same time, we have noticed that when a parent
tries to turn the child against the other parent, the child somehow gets
disturbed mentally. Whether or not you have cordial relation with your spouse,
the child should not be involved in it.
49. Try to make them happy or satisfy all time: Up next, we feel that trying to please the child all the time is a common mistake that most of us do. The child should be taught to adjust even if the situation or thing is not as per his or her liking, so don’t always try to make the child happy.
50.Lose out patience: Last in our list of 50 Common
Parenting Mistakes that parents make, we have the loss of patience. We all at
times just loss our patience dealing with our kids and yell, hit or simply
ignore them. Patience is the key to good parenting, so stay patient as much as
you can to raise good and disciplined children.
We now assume,
reading these 50 Biggest Parenting Mistakes, you will rectify them and be a
good parent to your child.